We all know how important wellbeing is, and I’m sure you’ve dished out advice to others telling them to look after themselves – but just how often do you neglect your own wellbeing?
It seems that some people are great at taking care of their own personal needs, as if it’s a natural ability that the rest of us envy and long for. For the best part, I see people who are regularly neglecting their own wellbeing – pushing it down the priority list in favour of more work or putting others’ needs ahead of their own.
It’s true that there is a certain amount of discipline involved in self-care and a necessary mindset shift to those of us who tend to ‘deprioritise’ our own needs.
Taking care of your wellbeing leads to resilience against stress and illness, emotional turmoil, some physical ailments, as well as encouraging a happier, healthier you.
Of course, there are a plethora of ways in which you can boost your wellbeing practice, some easier to incorporate than others. So remember, one step at a time. Put one practice into place first, let it settle and then add another. Over time you’ll see an amazing difference to your day-to-day health, mood, and productivity.
1. Ask for help when you need it.
Or preferably before you get to the point when you really need it. Being resilient is not about being self-sufficient. Sourcing help is a very resilient behaviour. Reach out to someone you trust. After all, no person is an island!
2. Understand what’s going on in your body.
One of the biggest drains on our individual resilience is high stress. Managing stress is about lowering cortisol and adrenaline.
Once we understand that stress is a profound physiological reaction and is designed to keep you safe (the fight/flight response) we can become more adept at recognising the signs that we are under strain and take steps to lower the cortisol and adrenaline in our body.
Drink a glass of water. Take some deep breaths. Meditate. Get some rest. Get out in nature. Reach out to someone. Do something that makes you smile.
You’ll know the ‘wellbeing boosters’ that work for you. It doesn’t have to be anything big. Just a small action can lower our levels of stress and make us more able to bounce back from challenges.
3. Find yourself a support network.
A small group of people who support and challenge you. People you trust and have a connection with. Make sure you have built in time to connect with the members of your support network regularly.
And keep your Energy Angel vs Energy Vampire ratio in check. Energy Angels being those people who lift you up and give you positive energy. Energy Vampires are those people who de-energise you and are more negative. When seeking to boost our resilience it obviously helps to have more Energy Angels in our life and minimise the time and focus we give to those pesky Energy Vampires as much as possible.
4. Practice ‘radical’ self-care.
We all know that we need to sleep, eat well and move our bodies in order to better be able to face life’s challenges. However, most of us do these things at best inconsistently.
‘Radical self-care’ is when we recognise that in order to be the best parent, sibling, friend, manager, member of our community and so on, we first must take care of ourselves. Radical self-care is about consistently prioritising our own wellbeing. It’s an altruistic act and is what the people who need us deserve.
And remember, self-care is not to be confused with ‘aftercare’. Self-care should be recognised as an important preventative. When you only look after yourself once you’ve got into a state of burnout or stress, it’s much harder to implement.
5. Challenge limiting beliefs.
‘A belief is something we are certain of, which may or may not be true’
Limiting beliefs are thoughts we have which can bring us down and hold us back from being our most resilient. Some people call it their ‘inner critic or gremlin’. It can help to label your inner gremlin so that you can more easily recognise that this voice is only part of who you are, often does not speak the truth and does not serve you.
Poke fun at your inner gremlin if you can. Defuse its power.
It can help to remember that:-
‘Our greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another’
Build up a body of evidence that contradicts your limiting beliefs and check yourself when you hear that gremlin start to chatter – ask yourself if it’s true, kind, or useful.
In our bespoke Purpose, Progress, Performance programme, we give you the training and tools you and your team need to start taking your wellbeing and resilience seriously. You want your team to be healthy, happy, and resilient for their own benefit as individuals but also in order to perform better as a team.
Not only that but you’ll enjoy all of the below:
- Have fun and build stronger relationships based on authenticity and trust.
- Understand each other’s strengths, differences and how they complement each other.
- Have honest conversations about what you all need and how you can support each other.
- Create a blueprint of shared values, behaviours and ambitions.
- Become a cohesive and effective team that achieves more together.
You want your team to be thriving, not just surviving.